Wednesday, November 1, 2006

This was an email I received...

A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day, drinking iced tea and visiting with her Mother. As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter.

"Don't forget your Sisters," she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass. "They'll be more important as you get older."

No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you may have, you are still going to need Sisters. Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them. "Remember that 'Sisters' means ALL the women... your girlfriends, your daughters, and all your other women relatives too. You'll need other women - women always do."

'What a funny piece of advice!' the young woman thought. 'Haven't I just gotten married? Haven't I just joined the couple-world? I'm now a married woman, for goodness sake! A grownup! Surely my husband and the family we may start will be all I need to make my life worth while!

But she listened to her Mother. She kept contact with her Sisters and made more women friends each year. As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her Mom really knew what she was talking about. As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, Sisters are the mainstays of her life.

After more than 50 years of living in this world, here is what I've learned:

- Time passes.
- Life happens.
- Distance separates.
- Children grow up.
- Jobs come and go.
- Love waxes and wanes.
- Men don't do what they're supposed to do.
- Hearts break.
- Parents die.
- Colleagues forget favors.
- Careers end.

Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you.

A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her reach. When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by yourself, the women in your life will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley's end.

Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you. Or come in and carry you out Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law, Mothers, Grandmothers, aunties, nieces, cousins, and extended family, all bless our life!

The world wouldn't be the same without women, and neither would I.

When we began this adventure called womanhood; we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other. Every day, we need each other still.

This is how I feel about my favorite online people who visit here. Allow me to get a little gushy. After my best friend for over 30 years passed, I just didn't bother trying to maintain friendships anymore. I never returned phone calls and seldom do now. I grieved and grieved over that passing.

And now my sister, Robin, is gone and she and I had always had plans about growing old together in our later years. My husband or her husband or kids or whatever would also live with us. We had an elderly great aunt and grandmother, Minnie and Hattie, who lived together so we called ourselves Minnie and Hattie, knowing we'd always have each other. Because we always did. Throughout schools, moving, husbands, deaths, birth, divorces, life. And we always came back to each other. Like a labryinth that led us back to it's center.

What I'm trying to say is that I really do cherish the friends I've made online here. You know who you are!


Lynn R said...

I never did address Robin's passing .... my sincerest condolences Susan ....

Shirl said...

oh dear Susan, what a lovely sweet post, and we love you. I think of you and Robin often. We call the farm "Paradise Farm" now, and I always tell people that you and Kathryn named it for me. This is the part of the internet that is so special, where true friendships are built. {{{hugs}}}